By: Ramiyah Lee (Senn Sophomore)
Students at Senn High School were asked to share their thoughts on whether social media affects their relationship standards.
According to a survey by Piper Sandler, an investment bank that conducts surveys of teens, 35% of teens say Snapchat is their favorite social media app and 30% say TikTok is their favorite. TikTok and Snapchat are communication and information hubs that bring a whole new side to the dating world.
Claudia Panait, a student at Senn, said: “Most of what happens on social media is like texts going back and forth. So there really isn’t face-to-face social interaction between a lot of people, and I feel like that just changes the overall social aspect of teen relationships.
Many student respondents made similar comments about digital-only communication and losing connection.
“I feel like [we] must be face to face, and [be] as authentic as possible,” Panait said.
Other students said social media sets unrealistic expectations for relationships.
“A lot of couples will show up having fun together,” sophomore Nina Mellits said, “and showing that they care about each other, but, usually, that’s not not realistic and it can affect someone who is our age and in a relationship because they want to strive to be you know this fun couple that does everything. But that’s not really realistic. So some people will try to fight for it, but it just doesn’t work, so they’re disappointed.
Senn’s student Seth Ramirez echoed this idea and said, “Everyone sees everything on the internet and thinks [it] it’s perfect and then, especially with all the comments there are and especially because of TikTok.”
Many children who were asked this question brought up the point about “perfectionism” and being performative. Social media creates a space where only the improved versions of things are shown, whether positive or negative.
“Nowadays people think that being toxic is a good and fun way to maintain a relationship, but I feel like that’s not what it’s all about and [they] don’t really appreciate [what] they’re in the relationship because they want what’s shown on social media,” said Senn sophomore Ana Campos.
“People are bored with their relationships because of the standards people have put on social media and they don’t even trust how they feel anymore. I feel like a lot of people are expecting a lot these days,” she said.