With the end of isolation, what will social interaction be like for both an introvert and an extrovert?
Introversion and extroversion can seem very different from each other. But did you know that an extrovert has an inner introvert and an introvert has an inner extrovert?
A simplistic definition of an introvert is someone who needs time alone to recharge their batteries. Meanwhile, an extrovert recharges when they connect with others.
The lockdowns of the pandemic have brought about the complete shutdown of most of social life.
Being an introvert myself, I reveled in the gift of spending time alone while in confinement.
By interacting with people, primarily my clients, and listening to their stories, I can confidently say that extroverts have struggled more since Spring 2020 than introverts.
For over a year, you may have been homebound for the most part. Even if you had to go to work, you would go out for work and other necessities, and then you would keep a lot of things for yourself and for those who lived with you.
You may have mastered online apps like Facetime, Zoom, WhatsApp, and other direct messengers to connect with your loved ones who don’t live with you and keep up with your work life.
So, now that the isolation is over, why are extroverts tired of social interactions?
You are a creature of habit.
If you are an introvert, you may have settled into your introverted nature and thrived in the past year or so. Now that the restrictions are lifted, the occasional outing is like a treat that you eagerly welcome.
On the other hand, if you are an extrovert, you feel ready to rush out and engage in whatever was “normal” for you before.
So at the end of the day when you need a long period of alone time to relax, you might be very surprised by it.
The next time the phone rings or you’re invited to a one-on-one with close friends, you push it back a bit until you feel ready, if not indefinitely. Your inner introvert has grown stronger and now needs more downtime to recharge.
Simply put, you’ve gotten used to the containment lifestyle.
Rest is the best.
If you are an introvert, your friends and family know your habits and cannot force anything abnormal on you.
For the extrovert, that’s another story.
You might want to play the way you played before, but you’ll find yourself forced to take a break and ask yourself, “What have I got?” “
You surprise yourself with the new you and you might ask yourself questions like “Am I lazy?” “Or” Do I feel demotivated? Or “Am I seriously stuck?” “
No, my dear, you are neither lazy, nor demotivated, nor stuck. After a year or more of living in survival mode, with an endless bombardment of fear-based news, social media, and staring at device screens, you just feel exhausted.
There is a difference !
Inside you got used to a different way of life from what you were used to before this confinement.
Now is the time to start a “new normal” for yourself on your terms. You decide how you want to enter the world after quarantine, and you can only do so when you deliberate.
This is why you need to rest.
Rest is more than sleep. Rest means resting the body, rest means resting your mind and heart too. You do it by not thinking. You do this by taking a break from your emotions.
When a thought arises, say to yourself, or out loud: “Not now!”
When they arise, you gently say to yourself, “Let’s rest for now! and your heart is listening.
Your thoughts become things.
Did you know that each of your emotions stems from thoughts that you are thinking? It can be a conscious thought or something subconscious.
Subconscious thoughts are those thoughts which, when they appear, ask you, “Where did this come from?”
So when you say to your thought “Not now” you are giving your mind and heart a break – you are allowing yourself to rest.
As an extrovert, you might receive a lot of invitations. But, the things you used to love going through – a late night out with your girlfriends or close friends, let alone nothing – maybe you need to space them out and instead get more rhythmic.
Remember that you are entering a new world, a world after global loneliness. And, too much, too quickly, could and will shock your system – your body, your mind, and your heart.
Instead, start a new habit of noticing things. Learn to rest from the comings and goings in the day and in life.
Here’s another thing you might want to take a break from: the need to get things done.
I have my organizer friends who like everything to be in its respective place. I’m not like that.
As a Buddhist, I take the middle path and say to myself, “If I take my blouse a little later from the bed, the bed doesn’t care either, and neither does the blouse.
Sticking to a schedule is not my strong suit. I will show up for my dates with others, but dates with myself usually have to wait.
I know a lot of good things come from the discipline of sticking to a schedule. But, for now, if you feel like the dishes can wait and the bed doesn’t need to be done right after you jump out of it, give yourself an extended break from life.
Things can wait. Your breath and your life cannot.
Finally, remember that your heart is your perfect guide. Follow your inner voice. Listen to that child in you and ask him what he wants to do now.
If it’s work, then work. If it’s rest, then rest. And if he wants to play, then play.
During the pandemic, you had no one but you, your thoughts, and maybe your journal to really converse with.
Now that you are free from this loneliness you were forced into, take your time to come out on your new terms.
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Keya Murthy, MS, is an author, Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist, and Spiritual Life Coach. His mission, promise and blessing to each of his students is to help them heal their hearts to live successful lives with confidence. You can find his books on Amazon or visit his website.